Getting Married? 7 Things You Need To Know Before Getting Married

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Marriage is complex, and getting married is a course to be learnt on its own. 


We all want to be married to someone, someone who we will love to spend our whole life with, someone who we can share our pains with, someone who will look us into the eyes and say, without us in their life, they are nothing to the world.


You might have heard a lot about marriage, whether from your parents, friends or neighbours who are married. But, have they told you about things going on within married Couples? Have they explained to you things you need to know before you get married? Maybe no.


So here are some key points about marriage I thought you need to know about, before getting married—I'm not saying these are the only things to know about marriages, but with these things you are likely to achieve more success with your partner over the long run.


1. Assumptions destroy marriages.


The assumption in marriage is common between married couples, but for a healthy marriage, don't assume your partner is onto things and begin acting up to it—what about things you assumed your partner was unto, did not happen to be true, what would happen? He would surely be hurt and that will affect your marriage.


To assume without cautioning your action is likely to destroy your marriage. For you to assume, it would be better to talk freely with your partner without inhibition about things you are in doubt with and sort things out between each other.


2. Understand that respect for each other is important.


To respect and be respected is an important factor in determining how far a marriage can last longer—there are different cases around the globe where couples lose respect for each other and it's turned out becoming a bigger toll for both.


Understanding the aspect of respecting your partner and their privacy or learning to respect your partner regardless of the circumstances would determine how often you would cope with your marriage.


3. Be ready to spend quality time with your families.


The rate at which most married couples spend countless times staying without each other is alarming. Some would go on saying that they have to look for money to sustain the family. Yeah! Without money, we can't partake in the needs of the family. 


Looking for money to sustain the family needs is advisable, but forgetting your family needs you more is not advisable.


Be ready to spend quality time with your family and spouse by having at least "meal together", "going out together" and also "share ideas with your spouse."


Also Read: 10 Signs You Have Found Your Soul Mate


4. Don't cut off your relationship with others because you are getting married.


We have friends who've in one way or the other add impact to our lives or help us in one way or the other, and after getting married we think it will be right for us to cut off our relationship with them because we have our own family.


Cutting off our relationship with others would do no good for us than to leave us with regrets over time. There are times friends would be important in our lives after being married even if it has been long since we talk to each other it still not advisable to cut off our relationship with them.


5. Be ready to accept challenges.


There will be times when things would be hard, be prepared to accept anything that comes after your marriage. Not all your expectations and demands would be fulfilled by your spouse, family or friends but the fact you accept all challenges that come your way and still find your way out of it without blaming or putting out a finger to your spouse makes your relationship stronger.


7. Be Patience and ready to forgive.


"We are all human and not perfect." Understanding that humans are bound to make mistakes, you will be patient with your spouse and be ready to forgive him.


As humans are being created to make mistakes and to be forgiven, that does not give them the audacity to continue making the same mistakes and expect to be forgiven by others. At most times we make mistakes by bringing up the past using it to judge the current situations which usually leads to misunderstanding between couples.


In conclusion; To have a blissful relationship with your spouse, and a long-lasting marriage:


Don't assume your partner is into things which would end up bringing problems to the family.


Learn to understand and respect your partner's privacy


Be ready to spend quality time with your family, they need you more.


Don't cut off your relationship with friends, families or neighbours, just because you are married, there will be the time you will need them most in your life.


Know that there will be challenges and be patience.






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